ANSWER: Unscheduled time during the day is as necessary for our mental and physical health as having a good night's sleep. In fact, children (and adults for that matter!), need some free time, in order for body and mind to achieve healthy balance and regulation. We need unscheduled time to reflect on our needs and act spontaneously to meet them.

When children are given opportunity for free play, they learn to regulate themselves through the choices they make. This is an essential part of growing up. Structure is a good thing if not overdone. But if we schedule every minute of their day, with little choice or free play, we rob them of the opportunity to develop self-regulation.

The concept of "down time" in this context does not necessarily mean "quiet" time. Instead, it means, "flex" time. Down time should serve to create flexibility, which can allow a child to engage in his of her choice of activities. In this way, children can learn to regulate themselves, gravitating towards physical activity to let off steam, when needed, or restful activities, for recharging their batteries, as appropriate.

Determining the amount of unscheduled time for your child is highly individual. Keep in mind that when a child has focused mentally, he or she may need to run, jump, hop and skip as a balance to the mental activity. While, if a child has been quite physically active, he or she may need to read quietly or even nap in order to achieve a healthy balance.

Find the right balance for your daughter. You may have to be more proactive in choosing (and limiting!) her activities, if you see she is tiring herself out. Oftentimes, younger children have not yet learned how to regulate themselves. Your daughter may need your help to recognize the need to slow down.

If your daughter is in need of rest, but runs herself ragged, falling apart emotionally in the afternoon, you may want to structure a "quiet" time that can be used for any number of activities in the hour after she arrives home from school. Allow your child to choose from a variety of "quiet time" activities, such as reading, watching an educational video or taking a nap. Freedom to choose will encourage your child to reflect (and act) on what she needs most, with your guidance.

At different times during the day, pent- up tension may need to be released, or depleted energies, replenished. Free time allows us to tune into our bodies and minds to clarify what we need in order to take care of ourselves.

When children learn to tune into their bodies and regulate their own activity, they grow into adults who can make healthy choices. If not, they may be prone to run themselves down, rather than take care of themselves. Sound familiar? It should.

Lack of self-soothing and self-regulation is a major culprit to mental and physical health in our society!