Nighttime Potty Training for Five-year-old
ANSWER: Your daughter is feeling embarrassed about her "accidents" in the night. This is reason enough to help her complete her potty training.
Naturally, if you continue to be concerned, consult your pediatrician. Consider a phone consult with your doctor to describe the problem without scheduling your daughter for an extra visit outside her normal well care, unless your doctor suggests it.
The great likelihood is that your daughter simply needs a little more direction and guidance in this area. Comforting as it may be to believe children will naturally guide themselves, reality bears out that some children need more help developing self-regulation than others. This is true with many things other than potty training. Individual children mature differently.
Consider leaving the diaper behind at this point. Help your child focus her energy on completing her potty training. She will feel better about herself as she gains mastery in this area. Leaving her on her own with this risks the potential for hurting her self-esteem. She may also suffer ridicule from others who may not treat her "accidents" as kindly. Good parenting skills sometimes include a gentle "push" in the right direction.
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